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Samuel Klug and John Neff place candles around a makeshift memorial at the scene of the mass shooting. (Jahi Chikwendiu/The Washington Post) |
I am with Ben Shapiro and was inspired by his podcast:
American Horror Story | The Ben Shapiro Show Ep. 832
We wish as a nation we could all take up a Jewish like
tradition of Shiva: a week long period of grief and mourning after the funeral before re-entering day to day life. We need to bury the dead and grieve with no blaming other than those truly responsible. However, since the Far Left media, and several Democrats and Republicans refuse to honor the dead this way and use their blood and deaths for political gain, I felt compelled to give a dose of reality as soon as possible.
Inspired again by Ben Shapiro referring to a few studies in
his above listed podcast, my comments are based on them as well:
LA Times Op-Ed August 4th 2019:
We have studied every mass shooting since 1966.
Here’s what we’ve learned about the shooters
Business Insider Feb 14, 2019:
School shooters usually show these signs of distress
long before they open fire research shows
In addition, I have added my own anecdotal evidence from 30+ years of
working with young men,at risk young men and my own teenage son
and his peers. I do not see much of this kind of analysis in our politically
charged media from both sides of the aisle. The exact same right or left
political ideology is not a common thread in every case even though it
does play a role. The Dayton Ohio killer supports Elizabeth Warren and
socialism, the El Paso killer claims to be an anti-immigrant racist and
eco-terrorist. Is Elizabeth Warren to blame and her political rallies to be
banned? Absolutely not or the 1st Amendment, one of our most sacred,
is at risk. I do not like Elizabeth Warren’s ideology or Donald Trump
personally but should we promote “fake news” propagandized blame
tactics to ban speech by those we disagree with politically or do not like
personally? As we see around the world, government or even
democratically supported tyranny by a majority to silence citizens due
to their political views can turn into another form of terrorism we do not
need either.
The common factors among all mass shooters are related to
our deteriorating culture and how it affects those prone to psychopathic,
sociopathic and violent tendencies.
Point of clarification before exposing our cultural defects: The victims and
their families must have justice and the killers must be held accountable
and are responsible. They made the choice to premeditate murdering
innocence brutally and without remorse. We can discuss prevention and
early intervention for those men who will willingly choose this path of
destruction but protection of victims and potential victims should be the
main priority. When we hear the stories of parents throwing themselves
in front of their infants to save them heroically from gun fire, the ultimate
blame lies in the evil hands of those pulling the trigger. We can come up
with a million reasons and ways our culture contributes to the creation of
psychopathic killers but ultimately, they are the responsible party. And, if
we see the signs in individuals around us, we need to create the laws and
tools to act early for protection. The Dayton killer had a hit list a number of
months prior to the shooting that several people witnessed? Why could we
not have stopped him sooner with this information?
These are some of the key contributing cultural shortfalls:
1) Dysfunctional family relationships arising from our divorce culture.
I define "divorce culture" as not just the rise of divorce itself but the
tendency for parents, adults, and children following parents and adults
to focus on self and isolate, neglect and or abuse children in or out of
marriage. Child Abuse is on the rise in this country.
We also divorce mentally ill family members from our lives all the time,
and our communities and local laws are not always designed to help them
or their families. Based on the studies cited above, the vast majority of
mass shooters experienced early childhood trauma and exposure to
violence at a young age. The nature of their exposure included parental
suicide, physical or sexual abuse, neglect, domestic violence, and/or severe
bullying. Divorce culture is also prevalent among peers who bully these
isolated children.
2) Our society worships too much at the alter of narcissism and nihilism.
Young men turn to this through more isolation and anger after family and
social estrangement and or abuse/trauma. Hopelessness and
abandonment of God and faith is thrown into the mix or an acceptance
there is NOT something greater than themselves to curb their behavior and
give their life, and in their minds, the lives of others deeper meaning.
Atheists may disagree with this but even the ones I have met believe life
at least has meaning and purpose. Life is empty of an empathetic human
purpose to these men.
3) The Internet and social media as an escape device. Isolated young men
are particularly prone to the violent side of this.
4) Lack of rites of passage for young men- testosterone is a great tool but
can turn into a weapon against society when not channeled properly.
5) Access by this violent group of young men to firearms even after they
show multiple signs of acting out a mass shooting.
6) Social Media notoriety and instant fame appealing to their sociopathic
and or psychopathic personalities- both from the fact they see other
people flourishing (not themselves) and the fame mass shooters receive
from endless news cycles.
We find mass killers are those most deeply affected by these corrupt cultural influences, They may or may not have been influenced by all listed above but all of them have at least two of these problems in addition to mental illness. Everywhere in between on the spectrum many of our young men are scattered, isolated and suffering; they may not kill but they are at risk. Those with teenage boys know what that means personally. When Trump talks about the cultures in other countries, he should get better at pointing out our shortcomings: Lack of morality, self restraint, rites of passage, belief in God, and unconditional love in families. Too much impure screen time, pornography, abuse and notoriety based on violence as a substitute for rites of passage and familial love.
A young man rejected too many times by those who are supposed to be closest to him turns to angry or non feeling violent means thinking it will comfort him. Gang violence is rooted in these things as well. As this past deadly weekend in Chicago (the media is mostly ignoring for political reasons) demonstrates. Of course, in spite of those reaching out to the young man, he may turn to violence anyway as he is tempted by our ever increasing degenerating culture. This is a cultural and societal problem, not one federal government can totally control. Answers primarily need to come from families, communities and churches. It needs to start with better care taking of our pre-adolescent boys before it takes hold in their character.
Obviously, many young boys survive and thrive in spite of abuse and family dysfunction in childhood. It does come down to personal choice, ultimately, in addition to help they may receive from others along the way. There are ways they can heal. I have also personally seen many mentally healthy young men raised by single parents. Some of these single parents did have help from extended family members, communities and church groups others did not. But, the main factor was they loved their boys, did not neglect them and did the best they could despite the circumstances. Again, it is not divorce itself we are talking about here. It is a divorce culture that increasingly neglects children for selfish reasons.
So, what are the solid solutions after we expose our decaying culture?
More gun legislation banning ownership for all citizens? More government
control and internet censorship? These could be considered legislation
wise but when we allow government that kind of leeway, liberties for all will
be lost and become yet another cultural problem. Targeting these violent
young men so they do not gain access to firearms when we detect clear
early warning signs? Good protective measure. Tracking them like we do
terrorists online? Good protective measure. Offer more security in public
places/schools using volunteer retired, trained and armed policeman?
Good protective measure.
These are good and needed protective measures often overlooked by cries
to ban gun ownership for everyone. Targeting the root cause, however, we
have a personal responsibility to reach out and love our boys better in our
families and as a community: denounce divorce culture. We need to watch
for signs and educate each other on these signs. We need to create laws
that allow earlier intervention preventing fire arm purchase by these young
men and involuntary hospitalization. Help the at risk especially as
examples of good striving male role models. That is the starting point of
cultural change, start with the family and community units. Teach them
morality, self restraint and give them wholesome activities with other stable
grown men. And, limit their violent screen time in the process.
Then, we need to openly address the problem on a national level.
It was not easy for me to find these common cultural and psychological
trends with all mass shooters to discover the root of the problem. These
studies were buried under headlines blaming Trump and the people who
voted for him with no solutions. Isolation is a key common factor but the
media is reluctant to blame our corrupt culture for influencing this
isolationism if it does not meet their political agenda. The Far Left has
been known to encourage broken marriages, radical feminism and every
generation as a “me” generation placing "self fulfillment" as a “right” taking
precedence before children and families.
We need to discourage divorce culture and its propensity for abuse and
neglect where we can. We need to actually call attention to it and treat
it as a shameful thing when yet another mass shooter kills or we see yet
another violent act. The rejection and abuse of our own young at any
point in or out of a legal divorce should be shunned. Where is the
"#MeToo" like movement for neglected and abused children and boys?
Less promiscuity and narcissism as a nation and more commitment to
family and those closest to us daily. More faith and more God, not as a
specific doctrine or religious sect, but as a general understanding that
He watches over us and gives meaning to our lives and to the lives of
others. Thus empathy is spawned and suicide by mass shooting does
not become a viscious fantasy fulfilled. The list goes on and on; we can
fill in the blanks. Unfortunately, we have already started down this
pathway for several decades so we will probably see more mass
shootings until we more fully address the root of the problem from a
cultural standpoint. It is up to us as a culture and a people.